The night that a drunk crashed into my Mercury Montego (hot) about a block from home, my dad came down to pick me up. When we were ready to leave the scene, he made me drive. No way--I'd just had a near miss and was pretty shaken up. But he prevailed. Not only that, he made me drive around the area for about 20 minutes before we headed home. He said if I avoided driving immediately after the accident, I risked "getting spooked" by driving. Yeah, sure.
Father Knows Best. Read today's article in the New York Times magazine by Gretchen Reynolds on overcoming fear by revising fearful memories, using the example of skiers and snowboarders and the nasty tumbles they take on the slopes. Here's an excerpt:
Revising a fearful memory is a mental, neurological process. You are calling up from memory circuits the unpleasant vision of yourself tumbling down the mountainside and overlaying it with a vision of yourself staying upright. If you can’t practice the technique right there on the slope, that’s probably O.K., Ms. Schiller says. The key seems to be reliving the experience (as quickly as possible) and then, without delaying or turning away, rethinking it. You have only a short window in which a memory is ‘‘vulnerable to revision,’’ Ms. Schiller says, before it’s returned to long-term brain storage.
This technique won’t, by the way, rid you of the memory. ‘‘We think that you can’t change the content of a memory,’’ Ms. Schiller says. ‘‘But you can change the emotions around it.’’ You can make that fall, in memory, tolerable.
It's good advice. But my dad already knew that.